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Yes she did Ann. We didn't tell her she was going in the room on her own! When the solicitor came and called her I got up to pass him the old will and the mortgage details. Mum got up confidently went up stairs and I went and sat down! The solicitor came to call my sister and I to explain that once he had writen up Mums wishes, he would send it to her to read. We will then have to take Mum back to sign it and have it witnessed. We had arrived early as I knew there wasn't much parking and we had to find somewhere not too far away for Mum to walk. We parked near a newish museum, and passed 20 mins in there. After the appointment we went to a nice pub/restaurant to lunch. It was lovely.

Hi all

I am off to see rellies and another genealogy research jaunt.

Yes people may mistakenly defriend people, either the site playing up or their profile playing up.

Hi folks, I really am still around!! Just busy as usual . . . just finished re-hemming the bathroom curtains which have only needed done for 3 years!! Now I am woirking on curtains for Mary's room - wh she shares with me BTW, my end is much calmer!! My ex son-i-l used to say my house was like a mauseleum - because I happen to love my inherited antique furniture. I think it's cozy, his opinions hold no water.
Mary wrote the entrance exam for a private school near here, 2 weeks ago,, and yesterday was invited to spend the day at the school, and had a personal interview. Seems they think she would be "a welcome addition" and have given her Mum all the info to apply for a scholarship, without which she cannot attend the school. She was on cloud nine after the day, so desperately wants to attend the school with all the extra activities and amenities.

Heading out shortly to take Em for her 4 hour dance class, and miniMary shopping with her money from birthday yesterday.
Have a great day all, will catch up later.
Mary

It's been quite a day. For the third time in about 5t weeks,I am without my van. The engine light came on, the mechanic scanned it and reported that 3 things were triggering the light, don't dare drive it, you may get stuck. So here I am with a huge boat of a loaner car, but at least I was able to get home.
Came home, worrying how much more this wretched vehicle is going to coat, after a huge bill just before Christmas and a replkacement radiator last week. Now the engine. half an hour later my 15 y/o Pembrokeshire corgi died. Family are all upset, the kids loved Rosie, Megan has withdrawn and won't talk, she looks beaten and pale, miniMary became hysterical, and I kicked into nurse mode to keep an aura of calm (not!) around them all. When I finally sat down 5 hours later, the tears started. I am tired of being tired, tired of sadness, tired of keeping on keeping on.
OK moan over, going to pour myself a nice wee glass of Stones, and try and refocus on things positive.
Night all
Mary

Mary, I am so sorry about your poor Rosie, how sad that she has gone now as well as Mary's little dog. Maybe you can ease the children's pain and that of Megan's to say that Rosie went to look after the other dog.

Such a shame there is no one to comfort you in your loss and upset, you always have to be the one to help everyone else through sadness when, especially now, it's you needing the hugs and comfort. Hope the Stones helped a little and you will be able to rest and recover your strength for tomorrow's trials and tribulations. I really don't know how you keep going sometimes.

I do hope the van won't cost too much to be fixed, you really are having such a hard time of things. Wish I could come and help you but no luck on the lottery front again, and still can't find my magic carpet.

Many hugs my dear friend,

love
Lizxxx


Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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Poor Mary, you always have to be so strong for the others in your family. You must have some reservoir of great inner strength that you can draw on. I am so sorry to hear about Rosie. She lived to a good old age but that is no consolation to you and your family who loved her. The poem below might help the children and I am sure it will help you. Her'e a huge ((((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))))) to share around and lots of thoughts and prayers that you and the children can come to terms with your loss.


I hope that the car isn't going to cost you too much, there is always something with a car isn't there. A necessary evil in your case.

Mary, I am so sorry, especially about the beloved dog. Yes, she was old, but it is always a wrench. The car is less important: they do not have personalities, really. Unless it is as cantankerous old so and so's.
With affection, Colin.

Mary I'm so sorry to hear poor Rossie has passed away. I think what Liz has said sums up it all, if I'd seen your post first I would have said the same. And the poem is beautiful, you can just imagine one day meeting Rossie and her spotting you and running to greet you. I like Ann don't know where you keep finding the strength to cope with all that comes to you. When I win thebig lottery I'm going to send you on a relaxing break somewhere quiet xxx Where do you want to go?

Thank you all, I am almost back together this morning.minding Sarah and Gareth while Mummy is away at Grad school this weekend. Emlyn has a dance recital this after noon so she and MiniMary are waiting at school with Mum. Megan is finally talking again now, she does not cope well with emotional trauma. As I worked for 22 years with the elderly and therefore with the reality of death, I can better accept it than many others.
Well Carole I LOVE Curacao, but would really like to see the whole lot of us go to Disney. And of course I'd like to fly home. Oh the list goes on, one of these days. The logistics are scary.

Have a happy day all you wonderful friends, many thanks for your support.
Group hug,
Mary

Oh Mary I have just seen this, I am so sorry about Rosy, our pets are one of the family and we feel their loss the same. It's the little ones that feel it worst, at least Megan is talking again so maybe she will let her grief out by talking about Rosie. A big ((((((hug)))))) for you all.

Love Caz xx

Thanks so much Caz, our Rosie was quite a girl, her registered name was Llandians Sweet Rosie, initially a show dog then, after 4 litters, she was retired and became our pet for 10 years. Being Welsh I had always wanted a corgi.
Great memories of her gentle spirit.

Hi Mary, hows is Megan now, has she accepted Rosies death better, I feel so sorry for children when their pets die, our spaniel died when mine were in the late teens and they still crept to their rooms to cry for her as did I. She was Debra of Rimaelia, Debby to us and as daft as a brush. Both her parents were show winners at crufts and we were told by the beeder she has all the best points for crufts but we didn't want to show her, we wanted a pet. I hope Megan and the others have got over the shock, fifteen years is a very long time, and I wish I could give you some special time just for yourself, you really are a wonderwoman.

Love Caz xx

Am in Southend today. Off to London tomorrow. Found my nans baptism. She was baptised in June 1933 aged 11 at Hawkwell, Essex.

Pleased for you that you found that Ben.

Hello All not been on here for while but things have,nt been very good as late ,went to Liverpool aweek ago to go and fix my mumand Dad and Grandaughters grave but it did,nt go very well from the start of getting there to my friends,saturday Rachel my grandaughter was going to come down with her 3 children my g,grandchildren to meet my other two G.daughters and Grandson from my oldest son ,but Jacqueline was,nt well so could,nt make it and Rachel wanted to come but i told her it was raining were we were and were she was not good for the children as Benjamin was,nt very well,so she said mybe we can all get together when Danni her sister has my g,Grandson in April,Then monday my son and his girlfriend came to help me with the grave while he was in my friends he showed me photo of my daughter on his phone well i cried as i cant believe shes gone ,then we met my cousin for hour and then onto the cenemtry to put the flowers on ,i couldnt find the grave as when my mum buried my dad she could,nt afford stone so it was just number on small like brick then my mum and my g,daughter went in the grave in 1982,it seems the stone has sank well we looked for two hours in the frezzing cold and could not find it ,i just stud and cryed my son said mum donr cry we will find her,so i rang the place up who deals with all the cementrys and he has sent map and grave numbers to my son,but i was in so much pain from my spine and feet i could hardly walk
Then when i get home i got aletter from the Dutch goverment every five years you have to have staying permit to stay in there country and its 288 euros which is about 245 pound,and we cant pay it so they will send me back to England and i cant go without my husband its realy making me ill i dont no what to do,sorry for going on but i only till the 8th march to pay it
before i go would just like to say sorry to Mary about losing your dog and i wish you all better days ahead ,i dont come on pc very much now as not well and sleep alot .thank you for letting me ramble on take care all
Love Dutchxx

I am off to Kew tomorrow to look up the army records for William Musgrave who was in the 63rd foot.

Good luck with that Ben

Joyce does that even apply when you are married to a dutch national? That doesn't seem right. Is there anybody that Jan can ask advice from about it?

Is it a residency permit Joyce? If so that only applies to members of Non EU countries.


Residence permit in the Netherlands – 08 April 2010

A residence permit is a card which proves that you are residing legally in the Netherlands. You are obliged to obtain a residence permit if you are a citizen of a non-EU/EEA country or Switzerland and you would like to stay in the Netherlands for a period of more than three months. A residence permit will generally be issued for a period of one year. Depending on the purpose of your stay, the validity may be for a longer or shorter period of time. If you are staying here for a longer period, you have to extend your residence permit before the expiring date. Furthermore, a change of purpose of stay in the Netherlands also means your residence permit has to be changed.

Hi Ann
yes that applys even though i am married to Jan and had alook on the back of my card it is Dutch residency permit,this is the third time i have had to renew and last time it was only 168 euros,every five years you have to pay to renew,i think Jan did get in touch with them when we got the second one but they said know it was right we had to pay it for me to stay in there country and i agree it dos,nt seem right and i dont think theres anything we can do about it
Dutchx

Hi Joyce, will text you this pm so we can chat if you are around then.
I can't see why you have to have the card, maybe Jan should call again and ask about it.

Test results ok from docs, so no medication necessary, just keep an eye on blood pressure and have another check next year or sooner if I feel there is a problem. Cholesterol and blood sugars all ok tho and ecg didn't flag up a problem but she couldn't see the results which is a bit daft.
I will get the nurse to double check on my file when I go next week for the asthma check up, couldn't get it done yesterday while I was there as the asthma nurse was busy.

Take care all, must get to bed now, it's actually getting light!


Love

Lizxx

Sorry have been awol, been a difficult few days. Megan is finally improved, now 2 of the kids have flu, Sarah sees the neurologist again tomorrow as she is still seizing a couple of times a week, with no known trigger.
Thanks for all the caring expressed.
Y Caz, thinking of you, hope you are somewhat more comfortable, and Dutch thinking of you too, seems there is just one thing after another. Just know your friends care.
It's still icy here, the road is covered with a thick layer of ice, gradually melting thank goodness. I know spring is coming because the locals who set up ice huts (shelter while ice-fishing) on the frozen river each winter, removed them yesterday.
Oh for some daffodils to pop their heads through the snow.
I am a bit nervous as we have discovered mould in the basement,perhaps a clue to my chronic coughing. Busying myself with bleach . . . .
Off to bed, 'night all.
Mary