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Should Catholic Priests be allowed to marry ???

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GeordiePride Report 26 Feb 2013 22:35

My Daughter (Cof E) married a Catholic. She wasn't too sure at first and to be honest and neither was I.
BUT GUESS WHAT my son in law and I get on like a house on fire and GUESS WHY its because we dont talk at all about Bloody Religion. We just get on with the simple things in life.
I won't be contributing to this thread anymore as I think it has ran its course. I just wish that the OP had just been a simple yes or no answer as already been mentioned but leave it to the religious fanatics to continue with it. You can call me what you like but I wont be back to answer.



supercrutch Report 26 Feb 2013 22:36

Hang on John, people outside of Christianity might just know a lot more than you presume.

You had 36 years as a heathen, I had 44 as a Christian so stop assuming you know everything about everything, i cannot unlearn what I was taught. I do not need preaching to neither do I need an explanation concerning the huge or subtle differences between the two main Uk faiths.

Have some humility please. You are not the keeper of the scrolls, most of us have had a look!


Muffyxx Report 26 Feb 2013 22:40

A number of years ago...during the time when I was so much younger and explored religion to see how I felt about it...I read that popes from days gone by (middle ages as i recall) used to keep mistresses.

I'm sure that's also where I read that the celibacy thing is to do with financial concerns (reluctance to support any subsequent children legitimate or not).rather than any deep set religious reason.


maggiewinchester Report 26 Feb 2013 22:41

Why would people with 'outside Christianity' not understand why there are two main strands? That's a basic fact taught in schools / picked up in youth. I'm sure most people have heard of the irish Troubles.
In fact there are lots of 'strands' of Christianity, likewise in most other religions. Unfortunately the media may use 'Protestant' and 'Catholic' when referring to different strands/factions of Christianity, but only refer to, for example, Islam - ignoring the many strands/factions within that religion - the cause, like those within Christianity of many a war.

In it's most basic term, one faction believes the way it worships / looks at life is better than the other sides and tries to get the other side to do what they do.

I have no religion, but have attended many a religious service - of all denominations.
The most disturbing was when I accompanied a friend to a 'born again' church. The pastor kept saying 'There is a 'sinner' amongst us', or a 'non-believer' - and looking at me. This went on for a couple of months, until I got fed up with being 'categorised', and made my apologies to my friend.
Suddenly the Pastor disappeared - it transpired he'd been having an affair with a member of the Community - who had committed suicide.

So who was the sinner?

Who was the hypocrite - me, non-religious, just accompanying my friend, or the pastor - who didn't know me - accusing me?


Gins Report 26 Feb 2013 22:43

I’m so pleased you get on with your SiL, despite his religion!

Strange, us Caths!


SylviaInCanada Report 26 Feb 2013 22:44

Gins posted

"And Catholic priests did marry and have families until less that 500 years ago in UK. And I expect they get married in parts of world today - just don't tell the Pope.

Please, ref your source?"


I must admit I was very surprised by this comment.

I was of the understanding that celibacy had been the rule in the Catholic church from around 800 AD, after all Western Catholics had come under the rule of the Pope.

Of course, many of them did live then in common-law relationships, and had children, especially in remote communities.

and we all know that certain Popes had children from common-law relationships ............. witness the Borgias, who also indulged in a little bit of murder, poisoning, and other skulduggery

BUT they were supposed to be celibate!

The Anglican Church is the result of Henry VIII's disagreement with the Pope, who refused to grant Henry a divorce .............

......... but the priests, bishops etc were all celibate at that time.


JustJohn Report 26 Feb 2013 22:45

Gins. Source of the first point is this thread, early on. It ceased in the Council of Trent apparently which was 16th century. It was a very long and very informative post (was it Muffy?)

My earliest known ancestor was a Roman Catholic priest - incumbent of a parish in Worcestershire about 1300AD. My 18x great grandfather in direct paternal line. And he he was obviously a family man as many priests were in UK till the Reformation. All priests and all parish churches then came under the Bishop of Rome the Pope), of course.

As to today, bit of guesswork and reading of Thornbirds. Just feel pretty sure that in remote parts of the world rules are interpreted to suit local conditions. Hope somebody with more knowledge can either confirm they think I am right or not.


supercrutch Report 26 Feb 2013 22:46

In case you missed it from the other thread today:



26 Feb 2013 13:46


It is lonely enough for me on these boards when anything of a religious nature crops up but I do enjoy discussing and sharing thoughts with others.

I was pleased that you posted the Christian thread because it made me feel less lonely and I am happy to chat on there.

However, you are antagonizing people left right and centre with some of your comments and, quite honestly, it does not do anything to help things along. In fact, it puts some people more against the faith issues than they already are. Is that what you really want?

I do not agree with the goading which you have been subject to in the past, but could say that you are making things harder for me and I really don't appreciate it.

If you could please THINK before you post or even preview your post first to make sure you are unlikely to offend anyone, I would be very grateful.

Thank you.

I will now return to my small corner.


Muffyxx Report 26 Feb 2013 22:48

No John ...long informative posts about religion will not have originated from me......


SylviaInCanada Report 26 Feb 2013 22:52


is it really OK to c&p a thread by someone who is unable to comment herself on the appropriateness???

Cyn will be in bed by now.


JustJohn Report 26 Feb 2013 22:57

Sorry Muffy. Person who posted the excellent post about the background to all of this was Joeva 23 Feb 1823hrs. On this thread. Bit long but well worth a read.


supercrutch Report 26 Feb 2013 22:59

Maybe, maybe not. Cynthia posted it, John may have missed it. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't want to upset Cynthia any further.

Don't you think she gave some jolly good advice? I do. It isn't as though this was a private conversation.


Muffyxx Report 26 Feb 2013 23:02

Agree with's only iffy if it's the contents of a personal message being copied..not a post that is up there for all to see.


SylviaInCanada Report 26 Feb 2013 23:02

oh yes ..................

some very good advice

but then Cyn always gives good advice

and it often behoves the rest of us to pay attention!


SueMaid Report 26 Feb 2013 23:02

An interesting site which is perhaps relevant to this thread.

Edit - an excerpt.

Myth: All priests take a vow of celibacy.
Fact: Most priests do not take a vow. It is a promise made before the bishop.

Myth: Celibacy is not the reason for the vocation shortage.
Fact: A 1983 survey of Protestant churches shows a surplus of clergy; the Catholic church alone has a shortage.

Myth: Clerical celibacy has been the norm since the Second Lateran Council in 1139.
Fact: Priests and even popes still continued to marry and have children for several hundred years after that date. In fact, the Eastern Catholic Church still has married priests.

In the Latin Church, one may be a married priest if:

•one is a Protestant pastor first; or
•if one is a life-long Catholic but promises never again to have sexual relations with one’s wife.


JustJohn Report 26 Feb 2013 23:07

Sue. I don't want to upset Cynthia, of course. I don't want to upset you. I don't want to upset anybody. I come across as preachy, self-opinionated, condescending, sarcastic.

I am none of those things. I just want to contribute if I can say something I feel may be useful from my own experience. I am very sorry if it does not come across right. But I do check and check before I post almost always.


Muffyxx Report 26 Feb 2013 23:08

That's a really interesting site Suemaid thank you.

succinct and informative...


SylviaInCanada Report 26 Feb 2013 23:09


I believe you misinterpreted that posting by Joeva

Celibacy was basically enforced in 1139. ......................... but a few priests, probably in remote areas, continue to marry illegally until the mid-16th century ........ when they could persuade another priest to officiate.

That is my reading of that long post ................................

............... and I think if you do read anything about the period from teh 212th century onwards you will find very little about married priests in England or Europe.

Lots of common-law relationships, etc .................. but not legal marriage, in front of the church door.


SylviaInCanada Report 26 Feb 2013 23:12

and the Eastern Catholic religions have always been able to marry.

They did not subscribe to the various Councils

but then, they do not owe allegiance to the Pope, do they???


SueMaid Report 26 Feb 2013 23:17

It is an interesting site :-)