General Chat

I can wholeheartedly empathise with you.
We´ve only been married 4 years but every time I express an opinion that isn´t the same as his, he throws a tantrum & threatens to leave.
In reality he has nowhere to go because he is unemployed & we live on my pension & my savings.,
I wish you lots of happiness in your new life, once things have settled down a bit.

Jean, good luck, only you can make the decision but I guess you have, 12 years is a long time to be taken for granted, maybe now he will know what he is missing. Stay strong and enjoy the rest of your life. :-)

all the lovely reassuring comments are giving me the strength i need. i have made my decision and will stick with it. he wont be getting the chance to walk away for the 5th time.

Well done, Jean. It's not his role in life to hold you to ransom, and it's not your role to be held to ransom!!
He's gone - his choice.
As Sharron says - go and do something YOU want to do.
Evening/weekend classes are a brilliant way to meet people - and achieve something, which makes you feel good.

First thing I did when he 'walked' was to paint every room in the house pink!!!
I don't particularly like pink, but I knew HE hated it, and my young girls loved it :-D

Suggest you change locks on the doors if he still has a key or you might get home one day and find he's mafe himself at home again.

Dont 4get to notify local authy re Council Tax as singles get a cheaper rate.

Once you refuse the emotional blackmail that I'm sure will come,,,,,,,,,Put a notice up on your fridge,,,in block capitals...

*****Jean is a SINGLE person and free of any milestones.*****.


Good luck what ever the future holds.

Go for it Jean,

You can go where you want,do what you want and have no-one to answer to.It's good living on your own I have done it for 10 yrss.

Treat yourself to a new Spring/Summer out fit.get a hair cut and tiou will feel FREE,FREE.

Yeah. <3 <3 <3 <3

All the best for your future, Jean. It's a brave decision you've made. Now, it's time for YOU, so look after yourself, and go for it.
You deserve it!! ;-)

Enjoy your freedom Jean :-)

thanks everyone. i have plenty of things lined up, untill the weather warms up. i will then be able to spend more time in my garden. freedom !!!

Jean, Has he stayed away, and no phone calls, If he does just ignore him. He will go away.

frank, hes stayed away, had no phone calls. he will be waiting for me to ring him, in the past i did ring him to ask about his health. but that wont be happening this time he will have to cope alone with his health. i found some money he had left, have wrote a cheque, posted it to him. so he has nothing to call round for.

Jean you should have kept it - you earned it. Your signature tune from now shall be 'I shall survive'.

Jean, your mantra should be "I have the power!" because you do have the power to change your own life. Don't let anyone take it away from you.

You have already decided to ive your life as you want to live it.

Go for it, in both big and small ways.

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Wisechild, my heart goes out to you.

Don't let him stop you from expressing your own opinion about things.

Stay strong and remember that a lot of your friends suport you.

Take care
Tess

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yes i have had a lots of support on here from people i dont even know, and i do thank everyone of you. i sent the cheque to him...he can never say that im a gold digger. i have allways payed my way....and yes i will survive i will get stronger as each day passes. he walked..hope he will find his own happiness.

Jean, think of YOU. Find your own happiness. It's there :-D :-D <3

maggie i will. it wont be easy but i am determind to get my life back. have wasted too much of time doing my best for a certain person. ME is the first thing i think about when i wake up each day.

Good on you Jean - we want more ME. It's not selfish, it's normal and called survival. <3 <3 <3

i will survive and get through this stage. it will pass in time. and i WILL move on. have had worse things to cope with in my life.