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Best of luck today Michael.

well every thing turned out ok bloods ok started chemo today I can take meds at home instead of going to hospital every time. just got to see if I can handle it ok, as for the other thing some of you may remember that my wife needsto have part of her bowel removed on wed she went to see the consultant who said she could have the op booked it for 4 feb yesterday she has informed my she is going to put a hold on it. I am not amused I cannot make her understand that although she will be in hospital for about 5-8 days I will be ok as we have plenty of back up so I wont be on my own but no she don't wont to leave me. I surpose I will have to respect her wishes .

Oh dear, it never rains but it pours!! I can understand you wife not wanting to leave you and also your frustration with her decision Michael. Maybe some other family member could persuade your wife to change her mind and go in for the op on 4th Feb. Ultimately, she will need to be as well as she can be long term to take care of you. Just one thing after another and a really challenging time ahead for you both.
Big hugs to you both right now. xx

Pleased all ok for you to start your chemo today Michael. I can understand how your wife feels bless her, but how long will she have to wait if she puts it off. I do hope she gets it over with very soon. Good luck with managing the medication at home. xx

hi I have had 3 people try and talk her in to having it done but she is very stubbon when she makes up her mind theres no changing it the consultant said the if she don't have it done .she will still be at the top of her list so when shes ready to phone they will do it quickly. in one respect I do under stand her reasoning but would still want her to get it done now. I am hoping that this is the end of the bad news for this year now we are looking forward to the family meal on sunday. they also upped pain relief stronger tablets also liquid morhpine if andwhen required. also gave me a 24 hr phone number if I need to contact them. :-) :-) :-)

Hello Michael,

Sorry to hear your wife is in need of surgery. I can understand your wanting her to take care of herself. I am afraid you are between a rock and a hard place at the moment. Hopefully your wife will reconsider her decision and you can relax a bit with less worry for her,

I hope the Chemo doesn't knock you around too much. My Dad had liquid Morphine along with other meds. Hopefully your new levels will keep any pain at bay.

You are in my thoughts, '

Susan

PS: a trick my Dad learnt when he was taking his cocktail of pills, they slid down a lot easier with a big spoonful of yoghurt. ;-)

Hi Michael, you are having everything slung at you right now, aren't you? Glad you can get on with the chemo and take it at home, and hope it will be relatively easy for you to deal with.

Sad that your poor wife has more to worry about but a pity she won't get the op over with, while you are still ok to cope with the help of friends and family. Surely sooner done and she can get well again so when the days are brighter and longer you can hopefully spend time together without her op hanging over you.

Take care and hope you can have as good a weekend as possible.

Lizxx

Thinking of you Michael and your wife too. I hope you both can enjoy the meal out your family and all relax a little together. Good food and good company make for a happy event tomorrow. Enjoy!

Hello Michael.
It is good that your wife is being kept at the top of the list when she decides to have her surgery, that is very considerate of her consultant. I hope you all enjoy your family meal tomorrow, have a good weekend.xx

good evening all I had a great time with all the family tonight good food and company. the best part was they all nagged wife to go ahead with her operation which she has agreed to do thank goodness she saw sense now I can relax a little. just got to work out how we are going to a sort of rota for my care and for my wife after she has her op and after nothing we all cant work out I,m sure. one of my nieces works with one of these care places the type that goes round to the elderly and see,s that they are ok and to help them. bless her she a good un, :-D :-D :-D

Hello Michael, So pleased you had a nice time with your family tonight. Even better now your wife has agreed to get her operation over with. It will be better for both of you. I do hope you get some care support for you and your wife after her surgery. Have a word with your doctor if your niece is unable to get help for you. Take care xx

Morning Michael, glad your meal out went well and also that your wife caved in to the pressure and agreed to get her op over and done with. I am sure everyone will rally round to help you both out if necessary and other care doesn't come into play.

Have a good day and keep positive.

Lizxx

Hello to Michael and his wife.
I hope you are both having a good day today and getting plenty of rest. <3 <3

Great news Michael that you all enjoyed your family meal together and your wife has changed her mind and will have her operation as originally planned. No doubt she is apprehensive I know that I would be in her situation but if its needed to improve her own health then needs must.
Perhaps the ward staff will offer a chance to speak to their social worker so extra support can be put in place on her discharge if necessary.

I hope that you are managing your chemo treatment without too many problems.
Take it easy now and look after one another. xx

Hello Michael,
I haven't spoken to you before but I have been reading this thread from the beginning. I'm glad you have the support of the "genes family" they are great aren't they when things get tough and you just want to unload. Thinking of you and your wife and I will be reading this thread to see how things are going.

Anne x

thank you ann yes they are I find a lot of comfort from their replys it really does help. so far I have not had any problems with side effects with the chemo so fingers crossed it stays that way .
I said the the wife was due her op on the 4 of feb I should have said 4 th march, my niece who works for care watch came round to see us today she has arranged for a care package for us to start when wife go in hospital, then when she come out .this is a great weight off our minds bless her. I am so lucky to have a good family my son was going to arrange time off work to look after us thankfully he does not have too although he will be in and out all the time also taking me to see the wife every evening as I will not be able to go in the day due to the fact I cannot walk very far. <3

Morning Michael, you must be so relieved that your niece has sorted out the care package for you and your wife after her op. How lucky you are to have a good family supporting you both, I hope things go as well as possible now. You have certainly done a lot since your diagnosis to make things as easy as possible for everyone to cope with and I hope the chemo will continue to be manageable too


Lizxx

Things have moved fast and all in the right direction. So pleased your wife has agreed to have her op. Your niece has done well sorting it all out so quickly. You can now relax and start thinking about your next family meal together. <3 <3

Hello Michael.
How wonderful of your niece to get the care package for you both, less for you to worry about when your wife goes into hospital. Take care and keep warm xx

Great for you both to have the support in a practical way from family right now.
I hope you both are managing to keep rested and warm. Take care now. xx